The rapper Andrew E. might have actually found the answer to women’s woes about marital happiness, years ago. A recent study reveals that the key to being a happy wife is “humanap ka ang pangit at ibigin mong tunay.” [Find a unattractive person and love him/her genuinely.]
A study by the Florida State University suggests the truth behind attractiveness of a romantic partner. Doctoral student Tania Reynolds and Assistant Professor of Psychology Andrea Meltzer suggested that women who marry less attractive men become less conscious about self-image and are more satisfied with their lives.
The study examined 113 newlywed couples — married less than four months, average age late 20s and who agreed to be rated on their attractiveness.
“The results reveal that having a physically attractive husband may have negative consequences for wives, especially if those wives are not particularly attractive,” Reynolds was quoted as saying in FSU News.
Wives who marry attractive husbands are more prone to pressure to look good and pushing them to extreme weight-loss behaviors resulting to anxiety, depression, substance abuse, and general dissatisfaction in life.
On the other hand, Reynolds suggest that it “tend to be more successful and satisfying when wives are more attractive than their husbands.” Women who are more attractive than their husbands were not motivated or pressured to diet and were more confident in life.
The study focuses more on women’s confidence and how they handle the pressure of being less attractive than their partners. The study is also significant in understanding the factors behind women’s desire to go on diet and seek a slimmer body.
In conclusion, the study suggests “focusing on the ways they are a good romantic partner outside of attractiveness and emphasizing those strengths: “I really value you because you’re a kind, smart and supportive partner.”